Finding
the love of your life: 10 tips
Sure, you've dated a few interesting
people, but most of them have been duds. Where is that spark
of love? Why is it so hard to find someone you can have a loving
relationship with? Someone with interests similar to your own? Here are some tips to help
you find that person you can truly connect with. That person
you will think about as you fall asleep, that person you will
think about as you awake.
1. Look for love in the right places.
You say you don't have time to take a sewing
class in hopes of meeting that special lady, or an electronics
course to meet that special guy? Or you've already done so and
it just didn't pan out? Tired of bars and singles groups?
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2. Become more physically attractive.
Let's face it, people do judge books by
their covers. If your body looks like an ad for save the whales,
you are going to limit the number of people interested in a
relationship with you. No, you don't need a perfect physique
to find love. But if you are in shape, you will feel better
about yourself, and this will carry over into how you interact
with a prospective love partner. It will also get you "up
to bat," so you can make that home run to the heart. For
help with this, get free advice on how
to be leaner.
3. Become more emotionally attractive.
Be cheerful--don't think of the inconvenience
involved in following dating rituals. Think of how making small
efforts will help endear you to the other person. Express positive
sentiments. A trip to your local Hallmark card shop is one of
the best investments you can make for your love portfolio.
4. Pay attention to the person you want.
It's just a fact that frequent contact works
far better than the dishonest "playing hard to get"
approach. Let the other person know you are interested. Show
enthusiasm. Guys, don't be cheap with the flowers. A big bouquet
sent to her at the office tells her you think she is important
and attractive. Don't wait for a special occasion--the occasion
is that she is special.
5. Show respect for the other person's
space and time.
It's good to call and say, "I was just
thinking about you, and I wanted to let you know." End
the conversation with, "I'm buried in a million things
to do, but it was important to stop everything and hear your
voice." Be alert to whether this person needs quiet time,
working out time, or has some other commitment that might go
better without you there.
6. Really listen to the other person, and
look for things you have in common.
Find out what is important to the
other person, and act accordingly. Your relationship is not
a contest where you have to work at impressing the other person.
It is an adventure--but to enjoy it, you must respect and honor
the other person.
7. Don't talk about past loves or yourself.
If asked about yourself or past loves, answer
honestly--but keep it short. Get the conversation back on track,
and into the present. Don't talk about plans far into the future,
either.
8. Don't make every date a lavish affair.
To get close to one another, you
need some mundane experiences together. Shopping, home repair
projects, cooking together, and simply going for a walk are
all ways to bond better. Pick a way that is suitable for both
of you.
9. Make love, not sex.
When your relationship includes sexual activities,
take time to make love to your partner's entire body, not just
the genitalia. Begin the love-making process well ahead of time,
by showing affection and respect "out of the sack."
10. Follow up.
Follow any intimate encounter with a personal
note, card, phone call, or small gift to show you still care
for this person. When people are intimate, they are exposed.
Let the other person know you like what he or she shared with
you. Keep the tone in line with the other person's expectations--if
in doubt, keep it conservative. An explicit or crude expression
of sentiment could have the opposite effect of what you intend--and
make the other person feel like a slab of meat in your eyes.
Aim for something classy in what you say. Here are some thoughts
that go over well:
"You make me feel like a natural woman."
"You left me trembling and breathless last night. I want
you even more than I did before."
"Thank you for yesterday's taste of heaven. I want to see
you again. And again. And again." |
